How to Write Genuine Engagement Party Thank You Cards

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Finding the right words to express your thanks to people who celebrate your life can be challenging. It’s important to thank them without sounding overly robotic or cheesy.

Save yourself some time, and don’t try to reinvent the wheel. Looking at a few examples of engagement party thank you card best practices points you in the right direction for your cards.

This post teaches you how to write genuine, heartfelt engagement party thank-you cards.

Who should you send an engagement party thank you card?

Navigating engagement party etiquette is tough. Unlike weddings, which have a very well-known set of best practices, engagement parties are kind of the Wild West. Not everyone has an engagement party, and among those who do, they vary widely in formality.

Across the board, anyone who attends your engagement party should receive a hand-written thank you card within a month of the party’s date. The person who hosted the party should get an especially heartfelt card, and maybe a small gift.

Split the people who don’t attend your party but send a card in the mail into two groups—those who send money or a gift with their card and those who don’t. For the people who sent a gift or money, send them a hand-written thank you card thanking them for their gift. The remaining people who sent a card with their congratulations should get a phone call or text thanking them for reaching out.

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When should you send your thank you cards?

Best practice says you should send your card as soon as possible. In practice, this means that guests who sent a gift or attended an engagement party should get a thank you in the mail within a month of the party or when their gift was received.

A late card is better than no card! If you’re running behind, send them as soon as possible. Tasks like this seem intimidating, but as soon as you get through the first few cards, you’ll be moving along smoothly.

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Where to buy your cards

While it’s common to fuss over stationery for your wedding, don’t stress about making your engagement party thank you cards perfect. If it’s easy to coordinate these cards with the rest of your wedding stationery, then go for it! Otherwise, high-quality thank you cards purchased from Amazon or a big box store near you work just fine.

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Engagement party thank you card wording 

When it comes time to write the cards, try not to get too caught up in the details.

The card’s purpose is to thank the person for celebrating with you, for their gift, and for any extra things they did related to this event.

Here are a few examples, changed depending on if they attended the party or sent a gift in the mail and if they did anything extra to help throw the party.

Guests who attend the party and bring a gift

Dear [Name(s)],

Thank you so much for celebrating our engagement with us! The gift you purchased for us is just perfect for building our lives together. We are already using it for…[insert action or other gift-specific detail here]. We’re so excited to see you again on our wedding day.

Love, [Names]

Guests who attend the party, bring a gift, and help host

Dear [Name(s)],

Thank you so much for celebrating our engagement with us! Bringing the [insert food or item] was SUCH a big help, and one that we’re very thankful for! On top of this, the gift you purchased for us is just perfect for building our lives together. We are already using it for…[insert action or other gift-specific detail here]. We’re so excited to see you again on our wedding day.

Love, [Names]

Guests who Don’t attend the party but send a gift in the mail

Dear [Name(s)],

We missed celebrating our engagement with you, but are so thankful for the gift you sent! We are already using it for…[insert action or other gift-specific detail here]. We’re so excited to spend time with you on our wedding day.

Love, [Names]

The host

Dear [Name(s)],

We are endlessly thankful for the absolutely amazing engagement party you hosted for us. Not only did we have a wonderful time, but it’s clear that all the guests did, too. Everything about the party was perfect, and we made so many memories we will cherish. Please accept this gift as a thank you – it’s the least we could do. We’re so thankful to have you in our lives!

Love, [Names]

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